I read a quote the other day that really resonated with me.
“Stop waiting to be chosen. Choose Yourself”
I think this is a message that needs to be spread. Spread far and spread wide. For every aspect of your life.
I’ve caught myself in places in the past where I craved another person’s attention, affection and love. Without it, I didn’t feel worthy or enough. I needed external validation to feel fulfilled and depended on this for happiness. I think it’s easy to fall into this trap, especially in relationships and these days with social media.
Waiting for someone else to ‘choose’ you or give you these feelings is waiting for something that may never happen. It’s putting all of your self-worth and self-fulfillment in the hands of another human being. Well let me tell you, people let you down.
I’ve come to learn in a round about way that choosing yourself, loving yourself and accepting yourself will serve more towards your happiness than anyone else ever could.
When you start to love yourself despite other people’s opinions, the love will come. When you start to accept yourself for who you are despite the need for other’s validation, you will be accepted. Mainly because, you don’t notice what anyone is doing or saying if they’re not on the same wavelength that you are but also because you attract what you put out and if that’s love and acceptance, then that is exactly what you will receive.
You don’t need someone else to tell you that you’re beautiful, loved and worthy. You need to be able to tell yourself that. You don’t need to be admired and bought gifts but you need to know that you can treat yourself as well as you expect others to treat you.
Choosing yourself is the best thing that you could do for your life, wellbeing and happiness. When you have this concept in mind in every decision you make, your contentment will increase instrumentally and the need for others validation will disappear.
We all want to be loved. We all want to be cared for and we all want to be wanted. But we can still choose ourselves, care for ourselves and want the best for ourselves first, then from others.
So, are you choosing you?