I believe in positivity. I believe in loving what you have, while working towards what you want.
That doesn’t mean I’m happy and positive every single minute of every single day. Heck, sometimes I go through weeks of feeling sorry for myself.
Something I’ve learned throughout my life and studies is that we must acknowledge and understand a variety of emotions – including unpleasant ones.
It’s all a part of the human experience. I’m learning the importance of acknowledgment, feeling, and accepting these phases as just another chapter in my life. It’s important to relish in these moments just as much as we revel in our happier times, because they all help us to understand why certain experiences are significant to the overall story.
Being positive doesn’t mean there is an absence of pain. It doesn’t mean you don’t feel, cry, rage or get knocked down. It’s important to find meaning in the struggle and keep on living despite of it. Pain is just a part of growing and sometimes its needed in order for us to move forward, to something bigger and better.
You don’t need to apologise for being negative – accepting and experiencing unpleasant emotions is crucial to understanding and making sense of life. Scars are a symbol of strength.
Keeping a Gratitude Diary sounds cliche but it helps you to find positivity when it otherwise may be lacking. It helps you to appreciate the small things in life, like coffee, oats, and men’s back muscles.
Exercise not only releases endorphin’s which make you feel alive and well, but it also gives you time to yourself or with a friend, to work on you, for you. It helps you push past your mind to new levels, it makes you believe in yourself and can have profound effects on sleep, mental health and mood.
When you eat good, you feel good. Shoving your face with pizza, chocolate, wine, and cake may sound fun but the aftermath is everything but. More often than not, you will end up feeling worse and more sorry for yourself. Fuel your body with nutrients and quality food to help heal the mind and soul.
Meditate, yoga, walking, mindfulness. Speak for themselves. Not only have they been empirically shown to help with your mental well-being but they also help with physiological factors such as heart rate, cortisol, and stress. Slow down and take a minute out of each day to make time for yourself. Find beauty in things that are generally overlooked. Walk without using your phone. Look up and appreciate your surroundings. Our society is so obsessed with technology and social media that we forget to live our actual lives. The one with actual people, with actual activities, with people who actually know and care about us.